The proper hug.

Every now and then, I like to pass along some useful tidbits of information to my readers. And, for some reason, I happen to know a lot of stuff that the average person may not know.  I can’t explain it- I’m a strange knowledge whore.  I know weird stuff.

I, however, can’t remember some very useful things, like how many ounces are in a pint, and what my home phone number is.

But this…

this is something I think everyone should know…

and practice often.

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About a decade ago, a friend of mine taught me the proper way to hug.  How to give a “real” hug.

She was picking me up to take me to a sweat lodge (an experience I promise to share with you in a different post).

When she showed up at my door, I gave her a hug.

“Oh no no, I need another hug.”

“Oh… okay…”

“But a proper hug”, she said outstretching her arms.

I thought maybe she meant a longer one, or a tighter one that includes a good squeeze, or one of those hugs that makes you utter a squishy sound like-  uwhhh uwh  uwh wuhhhh.

But she just looked at me simply and said, “I learned this from a Shaman- lean a little to your right.”

So, I did.

And she did the same.

And then she said, “You should hug ‘heart to heart'”.

So I pushed my heart against hers, and she was right.

It felt real.

Like a “real” hug.

I’ve never forgotten it.

Plus, it puts an end to the whole “which way do I lean” question when two people are coming in on each other.

I just always lean a little to the right.

I’ve also learned it helps to exhale when you do it.

I can pretty much guarantee you wont forget this bit of information.

So go do it.

And do it often.

Your welcome.

*big hug*

13 responses to “The proper hug.”

  1. RevsinAbs says:

    I am very eager to get home and try this out with all my huggables, then continue the experiment this weekend with my extended family of huggables. It sounds de (wait for it) lightful.. Delightful.

  2. truthaboutmotherhood says:

    I love it! I told ya when I saw ya that I was going to give you a hug…are you trying to tell me how to do it properly or not bother?LOL I am going to try this on everyone.Apparently,Ive been doing it wrong all these years but I blame my boobies for getting in the way. I gotta do a lot of damn mashing for my heart to touch anything, its buried under 12 inches of solid boobage:)LOL Happy Wednesday!
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  3. mommakiss02 says:

    I am a BIG fan of a REAL hug. I always leaned to the right, but had no idea why? Now I know – heart to heart.
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  4. Mama Bear says:

    Happy heart here.

  5. AmandaBroadfoot says:

    What a very useful piece of advice! I look forward to trying this out as soon as I encounter another adult today … which may be a while. And hopefully, the exterminator won't be the first one to show up 🙂
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  6. Should I try this on any random person, or should I reserve it for only those that I know/have seen naked?!?

    (So, tried to leave this comment for you at 3 a.m. when I was up sick and reading blogs and your website kept yelling at me “YOU’RE COMMENTING TOO FAST. SLOW DOWN.” What up, yo?)
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    • What the hell? I have no idea, yo! Perhaps my site is just as tired as I am.
      Prob not so good with the hugging of strangers… people often get punched that way.

  7. Jill says:

    I’ll have to report back to you after I give the lean to the right a try!
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  8. Poppy says:

    I'm going to try this hug out on everyone today!! I'm big on hugs so this is right up my alley. Great Post!!
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  9. I love it! Thanks so much for sharing this. It’s going to become a part of my daily life now. I’m a big hugger, and kinda sorta just a touchy-feeling person in general. Solitary confinement would be the worse thing ever. So this tidbit is wonderful, thanks so much!

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