The proper hug.
Every now and then, I like to pass along some useful tidbits of information to my readers. And, for some reason, I happen to know a lot of stuff that the average person may not know. I can’t explain it- I’m a strange knowledge whore. I know weird stuff.
I, however, can’t remember some very useful things, like how many ounces are in a pint, and what my home phone number is.
this is something I think everyone should know…
and practice often.
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About a decade ago, a friend of mine taught me the proper way to hug. How to give a “real” hug.
She was picking me up to take me to a sweat lodge (an experience I promise to share with you in a different post).
When she showed up at my door, I gave her a hug.
“Oh no no, I need another hug.”
“But a proper hug”, she said outstretching her arms.
I thought maybe she meant a longer one, or a tighter one that includes a good squeeze, or one of those hugs that makes you utter a squishy sound like- uwhhh uwh uwh wuhhhh.
But she just looked at me simply and said, “I learned this from a Shaman- lean a little to your right.”
So, I did.
And she did the same.
And then she said, “You should hug ‘heart to heart'”.
So I pushed my heart against hers, and she was right.
It felt real.
Like a “real” hug.
I’ve never forgotten it.
Plus, it puts an end to the whole “which way do I lean” question when two people are coming in on each other.
I just always lean a little to the right.
I’ve also learned it helps to exhale when you do it.
I can pretty much guarantee you wont forget this bit of information.
So go do it.
And do it often.